Criticism!

Criticism
 Bgaam! You zoom your sport lovely car on a steady tiled road to quickly visit your good colleague at work.
 You are about knocking his door but something tells you to eave drop before knocking and you obeyed.
 What you here is a conversation that you are interested in. Do you care to know? If yes, here it goes:
Mr. X: just imagine! That your volatile, too-forward, half-hearted, friend called…(he was referring to you). He will be doing as if he knows it all (he painted you black and exaggerate so much). You really don’t bother because you are not in good terms with him so you await your friend’s response.
You were shocked when you hear your friend’s respond. Instead of defending or at least shun him, he added to it. You, standing right at the door mat, how will you feel? What will you do?
 Haba! Just exactly how you will feel assuming you are the criticized as illustrated in the scenario above is what criticizing does to the criticized.
Have you experienced criticism about a person you haven’t met but you disliked him/her immediately?
Criticism can make the listener get frustrated and wanting to harm the criticized. It can also make the criticized think suicide or bring down his rising potential or zeal.
 Just mention a celebrity and ask for people’s opinion about him and you will hear a lot of criticism most especially in politics. Check Facebook or any other social media to prove me right.
 I must tell you my fact that criticism is not the best solution to solve problem you have discovered. What it does is negatively affects the listener and the criticized.
“Do unto others what you want them to do to you”
 I have discovered that many (if not all) of those you criticize, you know little about them. All your proofs are based on the information you got from a third party some of which are not correct or exaggerated. Even if they are all correct info, criticism I think will not solve the problem. It hurts and never strengthens the relationship but rather demolish it and build up hatred.
The only advantage is that it gives you attention which is unnecessary.
 I don’t dispute the fact that there might be truth in what you are saying or you are trying to be honest and saying things as how they are but it is only few people that can pick out your point in the use of your words without having negative feelings about you.
 Definitely, there are better means of passing info of any kind or without leaving a negative feeling in the heart of the partner. It is called “the third alternative”.
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Dedicated to Adeyemi Adedeji and Famakinde Micheal.