Is it your change?

Is it your change? How can you tell me to change?

Enough is enough!

If all I always get from someone I call my intimate friend is complains, blames and rejection, then what am I doing in there? 

If after telling you all my secrets, wrongs and my excesses, you go on to worsen the case with a whole lot of sabotage, what then am I still doing with you? 

If I can no longer trust telling you my deepest secrets due to your harmful response and reaction, then what am I still waiting for?
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Someone will then say that “if I am your friend, I should be able to tell you the truth and nothing less!”

Yes! That is absolutely right; but then “how you tell” matters more than “what you tell”

If I must tell my wife to tidy the house, why can’t I do that by firstly; tidy the house myself for few times, then go on to tell her to help me out with it:
Something like “dear, i will be glad if you can help me out with taking care of the house and i will surely support you with it too.” Rather than exercising authority in an inappropriate manner.
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Besides, “your telling” alone does not guarantee that that person will change.

 The changing of a person is not in the quantity or quality of the words spoken to him, nor the gravity of how it is spoken but rather on his personal conviction!

Aspire always to convince a person through influence and your consistent prayers for him.
 Let him see love and discipline from your eyes. Let him learn love more from your life.
 Influence gently. Influence steadily. Influence systematically and also influence by example.

Be the example and not the boss!