look at the atmosphere5

Look at the atmosphere! Part 5

Diversion of curiousity!

 Due to the exposure of the young ones to a lot of odd things in the social media, videos, musics and other means, they are curious as normal to know or practice what they have seen or watched. Yes! I said it is normal to be curious and it is one of the best way of learning. But it saddens me that some parents hide the real meaning or even shorn their children from what they ought to know. This makes them divert their curiousity to other places which are mostly of the negatives.
 How then can you train your child in the right way when you have pursue him away from you indirectly. When was the last time they ask you about some odd things? Did they ever ask you anything about sex, love, God, etc? Or do you think they didn't know anything about it? You are just as ignorant as the parent of my first girl friend who thought they were protecting her but many times she share with me what she ought to tell the parent.
 Even if you succeed in hiding some of the real meanings from her or you restrict( what you call protect) her till she left for higher institution. What about her life at school where you are not there? Can you beat your chest about her that she is matured enough?
 Even if the children don't come to ask questions from you, go to them(like wise the boss, employer, teacher, leaders etc). Tell them what they need to know so they will not be strange to it. Tell them your experience, mistakes and stories about you and others you know. With all this, they will rely on you and confide in you. IF YOU WANT TO KNOW MORE ABOUT A PERSON, TELL THEM ABOUT YOUR YOU. Just a little about you is enough to get what you want from them.
 Just this last thing before i close is that: in this age, we need to know if your child have a boyfriend/girlfriend. If he/she didn't tell you, and you notice there is one, then your child has a lot more to hide from you. I have seen a mother knows about his children girl friend. Knowing this help in lots of ways;
* Show me your boyfriend and i will tell you who you are.
* You can advise and influence your child to abstain from unnecessary relationships. Not by force but by influence.
* You can also be a friend of that boyfriend or girlfriend. With this, you are already regulating the relationship. I don't know if you understand? Many more benefits.
Please take it easy because it's not easy to train the children of this generation.